There are times when I feel truly guilty, horribly devastated, that I have lost touch, or been out of touch, with a friend. Generally I blame myself, hear all that negative self-talk saying, “You’re an awful friend and an awful person; it’s all your fault.” But lately I’ve been reminding myself that YES, it is partly my doing, but only partly. Relationships, each part of a relationship, involves two people. And it doesn’t have to always be 50-50. In fact, it’s generally NOT 50-50. But the other person has to be giving SOMETHING. And if they are truly doing nothing, you cannot put all the blame on yourself.